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EXPLORE WHO YOU ARE
and monitor your wellbeing For FREE, no ads, no tracking, we will never know who you are or what you write. Click [WRITE] to start an ephemeral session. Then click [DESTROY] to have truefeelings remove all traces of what you have written. A confession, a self affirmation, a release of hate or misery, an avowal of love. This small act will create a new neural pathway in your brain. And repeated over time, a change in your psyche. After each session a report is sent to truefeelings - the number of words you wrote and how long you spent writing - NEVER what you actually wrote. You see these details in the RESULT page. At this level of involvement no cookies are used. No personal data is collected at any level. So give it a TRY NOW, and come back to read more. [This site is in a testing stage] THEMES gives suggestions of possible approaches to using this site. It includes WARNINGS for those with mental health issues. FAQs gives details of Privacy and Security / why this site might be beneficial, and info on the SURVEY and Wellbeing scores. the community:We encourage you to go a level further and JOIN our Community of like-minded people. You will now be welcomed by your chosen name. After writing, the RESULT page will now show data for the latest session plus the totals for your history of use. This information, but not your chosen name, is sent to us. This will help us to better understand how the site is being used. For this to happen you need to allow your browser to store this information in Local Storage, which shows up as a cookie. After joining you will be eligible to take part in our regular WELLBEING SURVEY and be able to check your wellbeing history.
JOINING THE COMMUNITY
We suggest you do not use an ingonito tab, as the Local Storage will be lost when you close the tab or the browser.
WRITE your chosen name in the box below and CLICK on JOIN. This will enable the storage of the information on your browser.
To LEAVE the Community or to transfer the data held in Local Storage to another device, refer to the FAQs page.
the wellbeing surveyFor those who have joined the Community we are conducting our WELLBEING SURVEY as a research project to establish whether there are any therapeutic benefits [or disbenefits] in using this site. At the moment we are not making any such claims. We invite you to take part in our WELLBEING SURVEY every four weeks. Each time we update your wellbeing history with your latest score. Check the SURVEY page to find when you can next take the survey.donateWe do not have any ads on our site. Please consider making a donation if you find this site beneficial. Thanks.THEMES Some suggestions of how you might use this site. Write or dictate. For as long as you choose, as often as you choose.passionsCelebrate what arouses your passions, brings you love and joy, drives you in life. Your feelings of desire. The joy of being with someone, of achieving an ambition. Of music or art, of playing and maybe winning. The joy you find in fantasy and dreams. Recognise the joy you bring out in others. Writing will reinforce these feelings, affirming what is working well. If you are not so cheerful these days recall happiness from past times. Writing about it may shift your present mood, realising joy is posible.being positiveYou may be critical of yourself and others. This may indicate your high moral standards. But there is a down side. You will concentrate on the things that haven't worked out well. If you do not come up to your own high standards you may end up not liking yourself. Instead try compassion. Feel good about yourself and others. Congratulate yourself on what you have achieved today, even if it is very little. Acknowledge the things that have gone well, have made you smile. Your positive interactions with others. Be grateful for what you have, your skills, the people you know. Being compassionate may bring you closer to other people. Affirm that you are a worthwile and likeable person. Having a positive approach to life is known to enhance your wellbeing.anger and hateYour anger, your hate, any desire for revenge you may have. The bottled up resentment against people who treat you badly. The pent up stress you are under. Your despair at the state of the world. Time to let it all out. Feel the passion as you write. Feel the relief when you destroy it.worries / stressYou may have no one you can turn to with your worries and problems. You may feel lonely, unloved, sad or depressed. Have low self-esteem. Perhaps being bullied or cyber bullied. Perhaps suffering from a break up or grieving. Not being able to keep up with things. Perhaps having money or health problems. Here you can unload your worries, your sadness, whatever is causing any stress you are under. All in a confidential and non-judgemental environment. You could treat this section a bit like being with a therapist, a silent one who does not comment or break long silences. Writing or dictating amongst this community may help you realise that you are not alone, there are many like you. All struggling but surviving.guilt /dark secretsFeelings of guilt or shame. Wrongs you believe you may have done. Perhaps there are dark secrets in your life you can never tell to anyone. Things only you know about yourself. Bear in mind some feelings of guilt may stem from your moral upbringing, over which you had little or no control. Here you can unburden yourself. As in a confessional and know that it will be in complete confidence. As you actively destroy the writing, a weight may be lifted from your shoulders.phobias / fear of actingThere may be things you wish you could do. You may be held back through shyness, lack of self-esteem or simply fear because it something you have never been able to do before. There may be things that others take in their stride that you do not even think of doing. EMPOWER yourself. Write a simple first step in the process of doing something and visualise how you would make it happen. Then when you destroy the writing feel the satisfaction that would come from having done it. If it feels good, repeat until you feel confident of taking this first step. When you are ready just take this step. Repeat as necessary. WARNING: If you feel suicidal, ignore this and seek support. Go to suicide crisis lines The UK and USA are near the bottom of the list.deep seated fearsIn the past your confidence and spirit may have been crushed by those more powerful than you. Where there may have been incidents that may be the source of present fears. If you feel safe, revisit an incident that has affected you. This time armed with safety, confidence and a sense of justice. Now you can rage against those who were once more powerful than you. Release the anger now that was not released then. From your present safe standpoint you will be creating new neural pathways in your brain. Over time the new safe pathways may override the established ones. The threat that the past holds over the present may fade. The present may win. WARNING. Explore the unknown and any buried feelings with caution. If you feel you are leaving your comfort zone, stop. Only continue at a time when you feel it is safe to do so.relationshipsYou may live in harmony with the people around you. Or there may be tensions inside your family, with your friends, your relationships. You could explore what you might do on your part to improve things. Partners could each use truefeelings on their own device to explore what they need and what they wish to give. Later they could use that as a basis of a discussion. Someone may hold a coercive or abusive power over you. You may have a sense of relief when you are away from someone. You could explore how you could remove yourself from a bad situation. How would it feel if you were to be successful.letting goYou may be overwhelmed by all the stuff you have accumulated. If so, choose something you no longer really need and write how you could pass it on or get rid of it. As you destroy the writing feel the power of being able to dispose of it. Repeat until you feel confident of being able to do it. There may also be situations and reponsibilities you would rather not have to deal with. Is there a way you can remove yourself and still maintain your integrity?free writingThe technique for self-discovery. Just write or dictate how you are feeling or what is on your mind now. See where your attention goes, what you focus on, what is brought up from within. Do not worry about grammar or spelling. This free writing is ephemeral and will soon be destroyed. Buried feelings may more easily come to the surface. A little like figments appearing in a dream, knowing most are destined to be lost. This is the essence of self-discovery, understanding more about your true self, rather than just being what society expects of you. WARNING If you become upset, it would be better to stop using this self-discovery approach. Creativity. Use this free-writing technique to stimulate new ideas. Plan how you might move forward in your life. Unleash your creativity for any project you may have in mind. This is a technique that is known to work.wellbeingWellbeing is not just about being free of problems. It is about fulfillment and having a flourishing life. Pursueing some of the following is recommended. CONNECT - to bond more deeply in relationships and to form a good support network.BE ACTIVE - when you have the opportunity. BE CURIOUS - be aware of the world around you. Reflect on what you are experiencing. KEEP LEARNING - stimulate yourself by learning something new. Set a challenge you will enjoy achieving. It will help your confidence. GIVE - of your time, of your self, to those around you. Smile. You can write here how you might go about making your life more fulfilling. There are no ads on this site. If you have found this site helpful please make a donation to the creator of this site, John Griffiths. This will help to maintain the project. Thank you. 
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There are no ads on this site. If you have found this site helpful please make a donation to the creator of this site, John Griffiths. This will help to maintain the project. Thank you. FS = Wellbeing Score S = average No of Sessions /day W = average No of words /day T = average time spent /day in min [Since the previous survey ]
b] For those exploring - by being transitory, feelings and thoughts that are normally buried may come to the surface more easily. c] For those confronting fears – over time the conscious act of writing and destruction will create new neural pathways in the brain. These may take precedence over the original associations. We invite you to participate in our monthly survey to test if the site has any effect, beneficial or otherwise, upon users' wellbeing and psychological health over time. CREATOR This site has been conceived and created by me, John Griffiths. I studied Natural Sciences at Churchill College, Cambridge, followed by a period working on a PHD at UCLA in California in the late 60s. I was working under W F Libby, who had won a Nobel Prize for developing Carbon-14 dating. Whilst there I became very introspective, directing my querying mind upon myself. I was very free in developing ideas for experiments, but after building exploratory equipment would shrink away from completing the idea in practice, finding some excuse that it would not work and enthusiastically start working on something else. Similarly in relationships with women I would initially be very infatuated, and then need to escape. I used to live in fantasy a lot of the time, having the glory of being a hero, and escaping from opponents. In the end I was overcome by my introspection and came back to England. I did various jobs whilst I tried to be an inventor. I had a book published to help one solve crosswords – Cassell's Crossword Finisher - which was successful. I considered I would be cured when I could act freely. I invented a magnetic printing set, Magnaset, formed a company and set up a factory to make it. It was in the Design Centre and in many shops. But there was a recession on and I ended up bankrupt. In the High Court I appeared in person and claimed the bank had gone back on its word. The High Court tended to favour the bank. I kept appealing and winning. This escalated until it reached European Commission on Human Rights. But to no avail. I had been upset, because this time I had seen a project through to the end and I believed that it had been screwed up by someone other than myself. The court proceedings had been an exercise in seeking the truth, and revenge. Over this time I was in some kind of therapy, personal at the Tavistock and in group therapies. Later I was dangerously ill with septicaemia after I became infected during a heart procedure and was terrifyingly psychotic for a month in the heart hospital. So I have had some experience of psychological problems. Since then I have been the Chair of a charity where unemployed people could learn how to use a computer. Later I was Chair of a group promoting safe cycling in West London, and through that organised an environmental festival over 6 years, the Greenfest West London. I took out the domain name truefeelings.com some 25 years ago. I had intended to develop it but was worried about the libel problems that could arise if people published how they truly felt. Finally I have conceived of using the domain so that people can express themselves without offending anybody. To launch the survey during testing period CLICK BELOW CREDITS HAMBURGER DESIGN Thanks to: mranenko for the hamburger design - MIT license. https://www.cssscript.com/basic-hamburger-toggle-menu-css-vanilla-javascript/ FLOURISHING SCALE (FS) Permissions: The scale is copyrighted but you are free to use it without permission or charge by all professionals (researchers and practitioners) as long as you give credit to the authors of the scale: Diener, E., Wirtz, D., Tov, W., Kim-Prieto, C., Choi, D., Oishi, S., & Biswas-Diener, R. (2009). New measures of well-being: Flourishing and positive and negative feelings. Social Indicators Research, 39, 247-266. https://eddiener.com/scales/9 FAQs CONTENTS privacysecurity local storage the back arrow possible benefits of using truefeelings the survey privacyWhat is sent from your device to truefeelings.com IF YOU HAVE NOT JOINED THE COMMUNITY When you write and click destroy, the following information is submitted anonymously to the server to establish how the site is being used. If you are not connected to the internet, nothing is sent. a] number of words/ time taken to writeb] your time zone – to tell what part of the world you are in. c] your screen width -are you using a phone or a larger device. - we also log the time the information was received by the server in the UK WHEN YOU JOIN THE COMMUNITY When you join the community a notification is sent to the server that someone has joined, along with your time zone and your screen width. AFTER JOINING THE COMMUNITY. When you write and click destroy, and if you connected to the internet, the information shown above for those who have not joined PLUS the total number of sessions the total number of words written the total time spent writing the number of days since you joined the Community. This additional information is updated to your Local Storage as part of your history, whether or not you are connected to the internet. WHEN YOU LEAVE THE COMMUNITY When you leave the community, ie delete local storage, if you are connected to the internet, a notification is sent to the server that someone has left, along with your time zone and your screen width. back to top securitybefore you join the community The site shows up in the address bar as truefeelings.com with a padlock in front of it. If you click on the name it shows as https://www.truefeelings.com https [Hyper Text Transfer Protocol Secure] means data is sent from your device to the server covered by SSL, secure socket level, which means all data is encrypted when sent over the internet. If you click on the padlock it should indicate that no cookies are in use. AFTER YOU JOIN THE COMMUNITY If you click on the padlock it should now indicate that 1 cookies are in use. If you click on Cookies it should saywww.truefeelings.com Double click on that and it should say Local Storage Double click on that and it should say https://www.truefeelings.com back to top local storageLOCAL STORAGE is a part of your browser and a space is reserved for this website. Local storage will save some information in pairs, a key and a value separated by an equals sign. Pairs are separated by a comma. The keys we use are fname, startDate, No, tWords, tTime, joined and surveyNo, and all these values are numbers apart from fName which is the name you chose. When you submit a SURVEY some further keys are added - see below. WHAT'S IN YOUR LS. To find out what is being stored in your Local Storage for this site simply click on the button below. This will copy the contents of your Local Storage to the RESULTS page. This will not affect the contents of your Local storage. TRANSFERRING LS TO ANOTHER DEVICE. If you are changing your computer or mobile you can move the Local Storage to your new device. Copy the LS as above to the results page. Then copy the text to an email or file that you will have access to on the new device.On the new device open truefeelings.com. It should greet you as "Hi guest". DO NOT JOIN the community. Then into an empty WRITE page copy the text from the saved file. If an email added some footer to the text remove that. Then click on RESTORE LS from WRITE. When you refresh you should be greeted by your name. LEAVING THE COMMUNITY You need to DELETE LOCAL STORAGE for this site, removing all your history from this device. Your chosen name, the history including number of s, and also your WELLBEING history if you have taken a survey. You will no longer be able do a SURVEY on this machine. To LEAVE click on the button below. This will remove your user name and all your history of use of this site.
ARE YOU SURE?
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the back arrowThis site is written in HTML [Hypertext Markup Language] and JS [Javascript]. HTML is the framework of the page layout. Javascript controls how the site functions, and which parts of the site are visible. There is only one page on the site, and when you click to go to a new area that section becomes visable and the previous section disappears. When you click on the back arrow it takes you to the last page, which in this case is usually the previous website. back to toppossible benefits of using truefeelingsEXPRESSIVE WRITING Psychologist James W. Pennebaker studied the therapeutic effects of Expressive Writing. The following paper gives the background. Expressive Writing in Psychological Science / James W Pennebaker /First published October 9 2017[link to Journal - it will open in another tab] Psychologist James W Pennebaker answers a question in the magazine Scientific American - March 2016 Does Confessing Secrets Improve Our Mental Health? The answer includes Any type of open and truthful disclosure reduces stress and helps individuals come to terms with their behavior. It is not coincidental that some of the most powerful people or institutions in many cultures encourage people to confess their transgressions. And there is very strong evidence that writing about upsetting experiences or dark secrets can benefit your mental and physical well-being. [link to SA article - it will open in another tab] WRITE AND DESTROY In his book “Back in Control” 2012 ISBN 978-0-9882729-0-3 David Hanscom MD, a spine surgeon states at p159 Free Writing The first thing I have my patients with chronic pain do is to simply start writing down the negative thoughts and then immediately destroy this piece of paper. I call this technique “free writing.” Discarding the paper allows you to write with complete freedom. … It's not about psychology; it's about reprogramming your nervous system. back to top the surveyPURPOSE The purpose of the survey is to find out if the site has any therapeutic value. We will look to see how your answers change over time. Ideally we would like you to take the survey again every four weeks. QUESTIONS The questions are in 4 sections. It may take up to 10 minutes to complete1] Country / age / gender – as results may depend on them 2] Any particular problems you may have – to see if the site is helpful in those cases 3] Themes – to see how you might be using the site 4] FS – Flourishing Scale wellbeing survey SECURITY OF THE SURVEY WHEN you submit the survey the following information is sent to us anonymously over the secure SSL link. On the server it is stored securely. As the data cannot be traced back to you it does not count as personal information under data protection rules. The information sent: the startTime you joined the Community, surveyTime1 when the first survey was submitted, and surveyTime when the latest survey was sent [all 13 digit numbers]. the coded answers to all the questions, which are 1 or 2 digit numbers. the total FS score, from your history, totalWords, totalSessions, totalTime. LOCAL STORAGE UPDATE Also the following KEYS are added and stored in Local Storage to allow us to construct columns in your SURVEY HISTORY. These are: colDate: date of the survey colFS: score in the Flourishing Survey colSessions: number of sessions/day since the last survey colWords: number of words/day since the last survey colTime: time spent/day since the last survey It is extremely unlikely for the values in LS for this simple site to be attacked. However if you are concerned you can delete the values of your present and all your previous FS scores for your SURVEY HISTORY saved in LS and replace them with an “X”. This does not affect the values that have been sent to the server. FLOURISHING SCALE The Flourishing Scale is used as a measure of a person's wellbeing. It contains 8 questions. Each question has 7 possible answers, scoring from 1 to 7. The scores are added to give a total score from 8 to 56.
SURVEY
Name: Status: Which country are you in? NOTE: if not listed, Other Country at bottom of list Country Gender Age ABOUT YOU The reason for asking these questions is to find out if the site is helpful for people affected by certain conditions. It would be helpful if you would answer all the questions, but FEEL FREE to ignore any questions you find too intrusive. Click on the appopriate answer to change from the default "no".
HOW YOU USE THE SITE
DASS21 questionnaire 21 questions, used for our analysis, results not shown or stored on your device, but it would be very helpful to us if you complete this section. If you would rather not take part in this section CLICK on the the SKIP DASS21 link to go straight to the Wellbeing survey FS SKIP DASS21 DASS21 questions Please read each statement and select which answer indicates how much the statement applied to you over the past week. There are no right or wrong answers. Do not spend too much time on any statement. A button must be checked for each row for the questionnaire to be valid. The choices apply to me:
0 Not at all
1 To some degree, or some of the time 2 To a considerable degree or a good part of time 3 Very much or most of the time
YOUR WELLBEING SURVEY The flourishing Scale (FS)- 8 questions, the total score is your WELLBEING result. Credit for FS on the ABOUT page Q1 I lead a purposeful and meaningful life Q2 My social relationships are supportive and rewarding. Q3 I am engaged and interested in my daily activities Q4 I actively contribute to the happiness and well-being of others Q5 I am competent and capable in the activities that are important to me Q6 I am a good person and live a good life Q7 I am optimistic about my future Q8 People respect me
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